Begining anew

During our lifetimes, we have made some mistakes. Because we are human beings, we can not avoid making mistakes. We might have caused someone else to suffer, we might have offended our beloved ones, and we feel regret. Very often we have done that out of our unskillfulness, not because we wanted to harm that person, or we wanted to destroy the person, or because we wanted him or her to suffer. We were unskillful, that is all.

Buddhism is inclusiveness. But it is always possible for us to begin anew, and to transform all these kinds of mistakes. Reading the name of Buddha is an example.  Without making mistakes there is no way to learn, in order to be a better person, to learn how to be tolerant, to be compassionate, to be loving, to be accepting.

If you can learn from your mistakes, then you have already transformed the garbage into a flower, for your own joy, for the joy of your ancestors, for the joy of the future generations, and also for the joy of the person who was the victim of your ignorance and your lack of skillfulness. If you are skillful, you can avoid making yourself suffer, and making the other person suffer. If there is something you want to tell the other person, then yes, you have to tell it, but there is a way to tell it and make the other person suffer, and make you suffer. But there are other ways to say it that would not make the other person suffer, and yourself suffer also. So the problem is not whether to tell or not to tell what you have in your heart, the problem is how to tell it so that suffering will not be there. That is why this is a matter of art, and of our practice also. We should tell what you have in your heart that not make the other person suffer, and yourself suffer. Please.